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10 Things I Learned This Spring

Welcome to What We Learned, a quarterly practice where we pause to reflect on the past season before we move ahead into the future. “It’s not the experience that brings transformation,”says author and teacher Jan Johnson, “it’s our reflection upon our experience.”

If that’s true (and I’m convinced it is) then it’s vital we establish intentional time to reflect on our lives. Reflection is part of my daily and weekly routine, but once a quarter I like to share some of my list and invite you to share yours. Note: Where books are shared, affiliate links are used.

I spent the first week of this season in California but every week after that, like many of you, has been spent under Stay-At-Home orders in North Carolina. Suffice it to say, these last three months will take some time to unpack. But partial reflection still counts so here are 10 things I learned this spring in no particular order:

 

1. Sidecar Doughnuts makes the best doughnut I have ever had.

On March 6, 2020 I was in Southern California on the last day of the last trip I took before the Stay-At-Home orders were in place and I tasted a Sidecar Doughnut for the first time. This pandemical situation has distracted me from this memory which I have now brought forth and is yet another reason why I’m so grateful for the spiritual discipline of reflection. Because behold:

Image from Sidecar Doughnuts & Coffee

This I think is the blueberry one but the one I had: You guys it was the Butter & Salt. A BUTTER AND SALT DOUGHNUT. How did they make two regular ingredients that we all have in our kitchens into a miracle food?

 

2. Starting again doesn’t have to mean starting over.

No matter how long you’ve been away, no matter how far it seems you’ve traveled from the routine or rhythm you once practiced, it’s always only one step back to find the life again. I’ve had to remind myself of this truth over and over again this spring.

 

3. Fifteen minutes of reading in the morning goes a long way.

This spring I’ve finished Will the Circle Be Unbroken? by Sean Dietrich, Searching For Certainty by Shelly Miller, and Life Without Lack by Dallas Willard — mostly by reading with a timer for just 15 minutes in the mornings.

4. I will never regret hanging the hammock chair.

It’s one of those things that looks really good in a magazine photo but when you get it in your house you realize you don’t know where to put a hammock chair, how to hang it, or what to do with your life. But then, when you have to stay home for two months straight, you figure it out. (And by “you” I mean “John” but you could, too. I believe in you.)

 

5. Working from home during a pandemic is not the same as working from home during not a pandemic.

Of course that seems obvious when you say it, but in practice I had an expectation of myself to thrive during these stay at home times because I know how to do this. But turns out, none of us knows how to do this. And that’s okay. I talked about this on my friend Laura Tremaine’s podcast (you can listen to that episode here).

6. Zoom is the worst but also the best.

One of my personal goals at the end of February was have less Zoom meetings. Funny, right? I’ve been learning how to lead a remote team for a few years now, but things seem to have ramped up over the last six months as our hope*writers team has doubled, then doubled again. Even though these one dimensional meetings take double the energy, I’m grateful we have a way to do business and life via the screen.

 

7. It’s rod iron fence, not rot iron fence EMILY.

Every now and then I’ll share about a word I learn I’ve been saying wrong for my whole life. Thank you, Shelly Miller, for writing this in your book for me to read and finally learn this one. Rot iron?! What does that even mean? [Edited to add: The people have spoken and I have heard from eleventy hundred people that the word is, in fact, wrought iron. And now my head has exploded the end.]

 

8. Having a good system is not equal to living a good life.

What was good for yesterday may not be good for today and blanket solutions aren’t always ideal. My next right thing may be different than my last right thing. This was a relief to talk myself through (you can listen in on that conversation here for twelve and a half minutes).

 

9. Together from a distance is better than apart.

My parents came on my birthday at the end of April and we hadn’t seen them in months. We kept a safe distance and that made it difficult and frustrating and sad. But it was better than being apart.

10. It will not always be this way.

I keep learning this over and over again, but this spring this statement has been both a comfort and a grief. We’re in the middle of a pandemic: it will not always be this way. My teenagers are home: it will not always be this way. I’m tired, a little lonely, and sad. It will not always be this way.

Now it’s your turn. What’s something you’ve learned this season?

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  1. Kendra Nicole says

    May 30, 2020 at 11:49 AM

    As always, Emily, there is so much good truth here. Thank you for continuing to be such a source of wisdom, encouragement, and inspiration for the contemplative life. Numbers 2 and 8 are particularly standing out to me. . . this INFJ TYpe 1will need to mull over those for a while.

    I grew up in Southern California and return often, but have never been to Sidecar Doughnuts! Also, you are not alone in thinking it was a “rot iron fence.” How did I not know this?

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  2. Lauren says

    May 30, 2020 at 11:52 AM

    “Together from a distance is better than being apart” and “Zoom is the worst but also the best” … both so true. While I’m grateful for the technology that has enabled me to stay connected to family and friends during shutdown, nothing beats real time together! I really enjoy reading your seasonal reflections, Emily.

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  3. Michele Morin says

    May 30, 2020 at 11:59 AM

    I can’t believe I have never read an entire book by Dallas Willard. Life Without Lack is on my list.
    And I am also counting #10.
    Trusting, too, not to waste the lessons of this season.

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  4. Anna says

    May 30, 2020 at 1:38 PM

    Totally thought it was wrought iron fence.

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    • amk says

      May 30, 2020 at 8:22 PM

      It is. Wrought is an old word that means made/worked.

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      • Sara says

        May 30, 2020 at 10:33 PM

        See… That’s what I thought too! Wrought iron… Though I can see how it would be rod iron too. Imma gonna need to go look this up now…. 😆

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        • Susan says

          May 31, 2020 at 9:59 PM

          Yes, it is brought iron.

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      • Heather says

        June 1, 2020 at 7:23 AM

        Glad I read the comments before mentioning the same thing. I can see the case for rod iron, but wrought iron is malleable which makes even more sense to me. So technically, Emily HAS been saying it correctly all along, it’s just the spelling was a bit off.

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      • Robin Chapman says

        June 1, 2020 at 7:37 PM

        Yup.

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    • Pamela says

      May 30, 2020 at 10:48 PM

      It is wrought iron!

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    • Victoria says

      May 31, 2020 at 4:09 AM

      It’s wrought, which if you’ve never seen written would sound a bit like rot.

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    • JENNA says

      May 31, 2020 at 4:18 AM

      Yes! Me, too. Wrought iron fence.

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      • Cheryl Barron says

        May 31, 2020 at 4:53 PM

        Yes! Finally someone who can spell. Both rod &rot are wrong

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    • Laura says

      May 31, 2020 at 8:56 PM

      I also thought it was wrought iron fence!

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    • Leah says

      June 1, 2020 at 10:40 PM

      Indeed it is! Parallel to the expression, “What hath God wrought?!” Heat, (usually metal) instruments and human ingenuity bend and shape the iron into something that has been done, finished, worked, or “wrought.” You can find many smaller and medium-sized wrought iron pieces of various vintages in any home furnishings store.

      BTW, I love the reality of how reading 15 minutes each day will add up quickly and substantially!

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    • Erin says

      June 3, 2020 at 5:37 PM

      it IS wrought iron fence 😊

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  5. Kristina says

    May 30, 2020 at 1:55 PM

    Cut yourself some slack for not knowing something, like a word you misunderstood. We’ve all done it and will do it again, no matter our education or anything else.

    That said, it could also be “wrought iron fence.” It’s different than a rod iron fence, but I’m guessing that’s where you got the word “rot.”

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    • Cassidy says

      May 30, 2020 at 7:31 PM

      Haha – I was coming on here to say I always thought it was “wrought iron” … (but I wanted to spell it “wraught” which is not even a word). Ha! So we were all kind of right?? Maybe? 🤣 I always love these posts. Thanks for the inspiration to reflect!

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      • emily p freeman says

        May 30, 2020 at 8:01 PM

        OHHH!! There is a wrought iron?! Well that must be where I got it then. Except confession: I thought it had something to do with rot. Like, it’s rusty! It’s a rot iron fence!

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        • Sarah says

          May 31, 2020 at 6:50 AM

          I started wondering if “wrought iron” vs. “rod iron” was a regional difference, since I live in New England. Comment thread has cleared up what everyone means here!

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          • Kate says

            June 1, 2020 at 1:09 PM

            It is wrought iron, actually. That’s what you would call the stuff that they make into stair railings or a fence. Rod iron is used to make nails. Google said that rod iron is metal cut from an iron bar.

  6. Lewellyn says

    May 30, 2020 at 1:59 PM

    Wait, it’s “wrought iron,” meaning worked or shaped (by a blacksmith) and distinguished from cast iron.

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  7. Melody says

    May 30, 2020 at 7:11 PM

    I always thought it was wrought iron (which does sound like rot iron!)

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    • Angie says

      June 1, 2020 at 5:56 PM

      Same!

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  8. amk says

    May 30, 2020 at 8:23 PM

    I will be telling myself this won’t last forever, over and over again. Thank you!

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  9. Fiona says

    May 30, 2020 at 10:29 PM

    I had my first real doughnut in 9 years this month – it was gluten and dairy-free! Bliss. Actually my daughter bought a boxful for us to share. And am chuckling about the wrought iron fence. That’s what we call it in Australia. Maybe in the US it’s a rod iron fence. Also, from your newsletter, I’m glad I’m not the only one to lose any semblance of morning/evening routine and to find work and home merging more than ever. Love your words and photos.

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  10. Richella J. Parham says

    May 30, 2020 at 10:39 PM

    No, it’s not “rot,” but it’s not “rod,” either, at least in most usage. Wrought iron is iron that has been worked. Think of “What hath God wrought?” Not iron, certainly, but “wrought” is an excellent term. Cast iron, as in skillet, is iron that has been poured rather than worked. I think “rod iron” is a term that’s used in industry, but it certainly wouldn’t apply to decorative stairways or patio furniture. Our language is complex in its current form, but when you take into account its history? No wonder we’re often confused!

    Blessings and love to you as you end this crazily memorable quarter.

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  11. Lois says

    May 31, 2020 at 2:13 AM

    I’m reading Life Without Lack, after reading In Want + Plenty, both at your recommendation – THANK YOU! 😊

    Here in England (UK) we talk of wrought iron fences… x

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  12. Victoria says

    May 31, 2020 at 4:12 AM

    Starting again is not the same as starting over, is something I needed to hear.

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  13. Jessica says

    May 31, 2020 at 7:13 AM

    Emily, thank you for leading us in these monthly reflections.

    It’s “wrought iron” fence, because the iron is heated and bent or hammered to make The fence, as opposed to cast iron which is melted and poured Into a mold to make a skillet or something.

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  14. Nanci says

    May 31, 2020 at 7:35 AM

    of us saying…no it’s wrought iron fence or wrought iron railings etc. But hey we all learn from each other and I learned to repeat that this will not last forever. ( But it has certainly lasted) It sure makes me appreciate what I took for granted.

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  15. Jerri says

    May 31, 2020 at 8:59 AM

    LOL, I always thought it was wrought iron fence, too. But nowadays wrought is not a word on our radar, is it?

    Your whole list resonates with me, especially #10. I’m reminded of the saying, “This, too, shall pass.” I always thought it was biblical but I need to look it up and see if that is true. Sounds very King James-ish, doesn’t it?

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  16. Ann V says

    May 31, 2020 at 10:40 AM

    I have some history with rod iron too. I always thought that’s what it was. “Rod” like a round cylinder shaped metal. But I learned it was actually “wrought” because it’s shape was changed/forged and bent into a design. Never thought of it as “rot” though, you get full credit on that one!

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  17. Janet Rowland says

    May 31, 2020 at 12:54 PM

    https://www.ironfenceshop.com/wrought-iron-fence

    Wrought Iron Fence

    😉

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  18. AE Kise says

    May 31, 2020 at 7:34 PM

    I thought it was wrought iron! 😬😂

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  19. Margaret says

    June 1, 2020 at 11:58 AM

    I think this is what I have learned from the pandemic, sheltering in place that we have and are experiencing:
    Time passes quickly no matter what we are doing, so make the most of each moment, each day,
    and each month.
    Thank you for your reflections. I enjoyed this post.

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  20. Jessica Trebesch says

    June 1, 2020 at 2:31 PM

    I thought it was “wrought iron fence.” So many possibilities! And I keep saying it won’t be like this. It was my little bit of encouragement to end a interview with our church pastor about what I’m learning (recorded in April, though, so who knows what I’d say now!)– we don’t know how or when it will end, but it will end.

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  21. Lecy | A Simpler Grace says

    June 1, 2020 at 3:31 PM

    Those doughnuts look amazing! I needed to hear #2 today. Thank you for that. It has been extremely difficult to have to distance from family during the quarantine, but you’re right, it is better to be separate together instead of apart. Hope you have a great summer!

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  22. Judith Barillas says

    June 2, 2020 at 5:27 PM

    Thanks, Emily, for a good laugh! I needed it on this rainy, gloomy day when I’ve been struggling with emails – did I send that one out or not? If I didn’t, she will not have the right lessons for her online Sunday School class this month. Arrgh!!
    The rod iron fence was the most funny! I could just hear you saying that aloud, including EMILY in caps to indicate “duh! really?! How did I not know this?” So, thanks for the laugh. The other would be zoom. Never have I had so many zoom meetings, and for church at that. It’s lovely to see my church peeps’ faces but I’m tired of constantly adjusting my ipad so all of my face shows and then noticing my 65-yr-old neck (yuck!!). However, I’m grateful for the technology we do have so we can still “have church” together. Thanks for your ministry to us and for your sense of humor during this difficult time.

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  23. Jenn says

    June 6, 2020 at 3:39 PM

    Emily – Thank you for sharing another great post full of honesty, wisdom and encouragement. Thank you, too, for challenging others to pay attention and see what they hear. It has been life saving for me. See my blog to see what I learned in spring 2020 – “Laughter, Face Time (no screen or internet required) and Looping – What I Learned in Spring 2020”.

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  24. AOS TV says

    July 28, 2020 at 9:10 AM

    I think you have done a great job here by scheduling your time into small chunks to make it more productive. Looks like you have given everything some time. Keep up the good work.

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  25. Ryan says

    August 27, 2020 at 4:15 PM

    5 and 8 are so true. I never thought I will be that lonely and unable to work the usual “from-home” way during self-isolation. But it freed me some time to discover that my seeing of well-being today and tomorrow are different and it’s totally okay.

    Actually, I love this kind of “what I learned…” things, thank you for being my inspiration for doing the same for me!

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