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emily p. freeman

Creating space for your soul to breathe so you can discern your next right thing.

Let’s Share What We Learned This Spring

Welcome to What We Learned, where we pause to reflect on the past season before we move ahead into the future. At the end of this post, you’re invited to link up to your own list of what you learned this quarter – be it silly, serious, sacred, or just plain useful. I like to share a mix of all of those.

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Here are 10 things I learned this spring in no particular order.

1. Watching your kids grow up feels like torn lace, like smoke, like wedding mints melting on your tongue.

For several years I’ve been trying to put into words what it feels like to have not-quite-grown kids but also not little kids, either. I was finally able to write my way through it here: What it Feels Like When Your Kids Are Growing Up.

 

2. Clarity cannot be rushed.

Thank you for that, Marie Forleo.

 

3. I prefer half and half to flavored creamer.

This is a small detail of my life. But two years ago I could not have imagined my coffee without flavored creamer. Then I went off sugar for 30 days and used milk instead of fancy creamer and then when I tried the fancy creamer again it tasted like perfume and I haven’t been able to go back.

 

4. The meaning of quid-pro-quo.

I have lived 40 years and never knew what this meant. But then they said it on Designated Survivor so I looked it up. Incase you also don’t know, it means doing something as a favor with an expectation that you’ll get a favor in return. Like, I’ll give you the quid if you give me the quo. That kind of thing.

 

5. If you cook eggs too fast they get tough.

I guess I knew this sort of  but I never thought about why. It’s because eggs are protein! Of course. I listened to this interview with The Barefoot Contessa and she casually mentioned this simple and obvious fact I’ve never thought of before.

 

6. Alcoholism doesn’t have to get the final say.

Dad stopped drinking nearly 30 years ago, but this month brings it all back around again as his first book releases into the world next week.

Mom + Dad

I wish I could tell my ten-year-old self that one day my alcoholic, non-believing-in-Jesus dad would write a book about about God and family and grace and what it means to get along with the people who matter most.

 

7. If God has something to tell me, He won’t let me miss it.

This I’ve learned from Dallas Willard. He writes in Hearing God that when he asks something of God – for direction or clarity in some way – he states it simply and then devotes the next hour or so to “housework, gardening, driving about on errands or paying bills,” things that keep his hands busy but his mind open.

Then he says this: “I’ve learned not to worry about whether or not this is going to work. I know it does not have to work, but I am sure that it will work if God has something he really wants me to know or do. This is ultimately because I am sure of how great and good He is.”

Over the last three months, that has helped me to rest in the midst of my unknowing.

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8. Turning 40 is a relief.

I didn’t realize it until after my birthday in April, but I have been symbolically holding my breath for a year in anticipation of this milestone birthday. I wasn’t sure what to expect and I think 39 was somewhat of a grieving for me on many different levels.

As it turns out, I’ve experienced a peace I can’t quite explain over the past month – hopeful for the future, grateful for life, and glad to be growing in wisdom and perspective.

 

9. I crave time with whole-hearted creative women.

In March I spent some time thinking about what it means to be a whole-hearted creative woman and I came up with a list of 8 things whole-hearted creative women do differently. Since then, that phrase has felt glad on my lips. In the last several months, I’ve decided to be intentional with these kinds of women – to learn from them, to work beside them, and to champion their work.

 

10. It all counts.

A short walk around the block, one yoga class per month, writing or reading a paragraph per day, choosing kindness once when you could haven chosen defense – it all counts. Small movement is still movement.

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I keep track of what I’m learning by using my seasonal reflection lists. You can get your own printable lists for tracking your reflections by signing up right here. If you’re new around here and want to know what, how, and tools to track what you’re learning, check out A New Page for Your Bullet Journal.

Some linking tips: 

  • Just use your name for the “link title” – it’s simpler
  • Be sure to link back here on  your post so your readers can join in!

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  1. Lilly says

    May 31, 2017 at 10:16 AM

    Thank you, Emily. I haven’t been brave enough to leave comments, but finally, I’m learning to step out of my comfort zone, and do this. 🙂 Thanks for providing us a space to link up. Thank you for walking beside us and exhorting us to the calling of creativity (I love the phrase “whole-hearted creative women”). Love it.

    Thanks for sharing what you are learning. And yes, ah, movement. Moving forward. Even in small movements, it all counts. Thank you, Emily.

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    • emily p freeman says

      May 31, 2017 at 10:27 AM

      Hi Lilly! I’m so glad you stepped forward and spoke up. Of course you’re always welcome to read in silence (I’m a fan of silence 🙂 but I’m also grateful for your voice and words of encouragement.

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      • Lilly C says

        May 31, 2017 at 10:32 AM

        Thank you, Emily! <3

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  2. Heidi McCahan says

    May 31, 2017 at 10:20 AM

    Thank you for hosting Things I Learned, Emily. I always enjoy reading your post. Yes, turning 40 is a relief isn’t it? I wasn’t sure what to expect but I can certainly identify with the feeling of peace. More comfortable in our own skin, I suppose. I’m looking forward to reading your dad’s book, too. Blessings!

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    • emily p freeman says

      May 31, 2017 at 10:38 AM

      You’re welcome Heidi! And thanks for your words. (I think you’ll love Dad’s book 🙂

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  3. Cynthia Stuckey says

    May 31, 2017 at 11:44 AM

    I am 100% with you on the half & half vs. coffee creamer. I also started drinking my coffee without sugar about 18 months ago and cannot go back. I keep trying these fancy drinks when Starbucks gets them in, but find myself missing “my” coffee.

    And thank you for the word on clarity. I have been praying and seeking clarity for what feels like some time, but I’m far too impatient in the waiting.

    As always, love this link-up and your words.

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  4. Terri Conlin says

    May 31, 2017 at 11:49 AM

    Emily,

    First of all, Yes to half and half in coffee!

    And thank you for gathering us together in this “Let’s Share What We Learned” community. Every time I look back over my lessons list scribbles and pull it together for the linkup, I fell grateful, humbled and in awe of God’s quiet calloused hand.

    Happy summer, Terri

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  5. Paris Renae says

    May 31, 2017 at 12:28 PM

    I love ‘It all counts’ – so right. I forget that even my one workout a week, counts. Each effort to show my daughter God’s love so she owns it, counts. I’ve learned this time around grace abounds more when I accept His – for real – first.

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  6. Tracey says

    May 31, 2017 at 1:41 PM

    I’m not even done reading it yet and I just ordered 5 copies of your Dad’s book to share with family. I’ve never done that! At 5 years in I think I can say my 40’s are my favorite so far. Far easier than any other decade. Amen to “Small movement is still movement.”

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  7. Jan says

    May 31, 2017 at 1:48 PM

    Thank you for sharing. I found your blog by listening to your Dad on the radio. I will always remember when he signed off New Life 91 on the radio. I am looking forward to reading his book, and I enjoy reading your blog posts. I, too, have started writing down things that make an impression on me. I love that idea. Thanks again.

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  8. Anna says

    May 31, 2017 at 2:17 PM

    I enjoyed reading your list as I always do – but what Dallas Willard said about hearing God? Sooo good! Thanks so much, I needed to hear that.

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  9. Susan Shipe says

    May 31, 2017 at 3:19 PM

    Your dad and I are both baby boomers and I’m so pleased for him and this new book – as pleased as punch! Eggs = low and slow. Thank you, Ina. Glad to link up today. A fellow H*W

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  10. Robin says

    May 31, 2017 at 4:44 PM

    Hello Ladies!

    I’m 54, and 40 was absolutely freeing!! For me, I finally felt the pressure to “do something with my life” just fall right off me like rain. Most things I stressed over and carried with me daily just didn’t seem important any more!

    But I did call my Mother that day and ask her if I really was turning 40 🙂

    Thanks, Emily, for this cozy space to share and feel virtually hugged.

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  11. Linda says

    May 31, 2017 at 6:03 PM

    I love these lists, Emily. I learn from what you’very learned! Right now my poor little brain is in such a funk I can’t even find words to write about what I learned. I just have no words rattling around anywhere.
    So thanks for your words. They also bless.

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  12. Linda says

    May 31, 2017 at 6:04 PM

    That word should be you’ve. See – total funk.

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  13. Kelly Sobieski says

    May 31, 2017 at 6:40 PM

    Totally agree with #3… and #7 especially spoke to my heart. Love this…

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  14. Gloryanna says

    May 31, 2017 at 9:40 PM

    YES! It does all count. I have really relied on this truth as I’m working through my postpartum body, and finding time with my husband, and reading for fun, and so so much more. And while I like half and half, I love my flavored creamer 🙂

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  15. Lauren says

    May 31, 2017 at 10:10 PM

    #7 — I needed these words. Thank you.

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  16. Peg says

    May 31, 2017 at 10:33 PM

    I learned that life is precious. My husband had what they call a widowmaker heart attack, just a few days past our 40th wedding anniversary. he survived! God is good and we are grateful to be able to have more time.

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  17. Aimee Kollmansberger says

    May 31, 2017 at 11:34 PM

    Dallas Willard can pretty much drop the mic all day long.

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  18. Marian Vischer says

    June 1, 2017 at 1:36 PM

    I love What We Learned posts so much.

    Thanks for reminding me about that Dallas Willard reference because that was so meaningful to me earlier this spring. And shocker, I need it again. : )

    Happy belated 40th! I had the same feelings / process about mine and you’re right, “relief” is just the word for it.

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  19. Lisa-Jo says

    June 2, 2017 at 9:27 AM

    Crying in IHOP because —> I wish I could tell my ten-year-old self that one day my alcoholic, non-believing-in-Jesus dad would write a book about about God and family and grace and what it means to get along with the people who matter most.

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  20. Beth williams says

    June 2, 2017 at 6:45 PM

    Emily,

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  21. Beth williams says

    June 2, 2017 at 6:49 PM

    Emily,

    I’ve learned that I’m stronger than I think. I have gone through the death of mom in 2009 and the more recent 03/15/17 death of my dad. I took care of him from 2014 2017 & even quit a good job to do so.

    40 is nothing try turning 50 even 52. It puts new meaning on life. I am a more mature, grown up woman now than ever before. It helps going through trials. You learn so much!

    Blessings 🙂

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  22. Tondra Denise says

    June 3, 2017 at 10:34 AM

    Wow! Okay, so although I think #3 is PURE BLASPHEMY… you more than made up for it with numbers 6,7,8!!! Good stuff.

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  23. K Ann Guinn says

    June 7, 2017 at 10:19 PM

    Thanks for another opportunity to link up, Emily. I feel so blessed! Looks like I barely made it this time (I’m the last one!), and for some reason my photo isn’t showing up. Oh, well. Glad to be here!

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    • K Ann Guinn says

      June 12, 2017 at 11:45 AM

      Oh, and as for coffee creamer, I do know what you mean. I prefer it when the beans are flavored. I have purchased some of the more natural flavored creamers, but don’t love them, and have made my own, but don’t always have the time.

      But what is even better than half and half is light cream! Yes, it’s more calories and fat, but you need less and it’s by far my favorite, as it’s creamy but doesn’t water down your coffee.

      Just one more “trick”. If you use a frother and froth up a little milk (or I prefer almond milk), with a little sugar and cinnamon, then brew STRONG coffee (or I suppose espresso), over it, you’ll have a nice latte and for some reason the frothiness makes up for the lighter milk.

      Enjoy!

      Reply

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