Thinking more on grace in parenting, I found this short video clip about the way our parent role reflects how we see God, for better or worse. It’s about parenting, but really it can apply to lots of relationships. It has been said backwards, forwards, upside down, around and through – but it is worth repeating: You cannot extend what you have not received. Consider the words of Danny Silk:

“As much as love casts out the fear, fear casts out the love . . . All you have is what you were given, most of us have tools that create anxiety — that transfer the anxiety that’s inside of me to my child.” – Danny Silk

*The systems, tools, and processes he mentions at the beginning are fully explained in his book, Loving Our Kids on Purpose. This is one of my favorite books on parenting.