The reason it’s so hard when they fight in the morning over socks and Cheerios, when he doesn’t notice all the things you have done that day, when she speaks without thinking and overlooks your feelings, when the telemarketer calls eventhough you’re off the list – the reason it’s so hard to extend the gracious hand is perhaps because you have refused the hand extended toward you. It is never more difficult to show grace than when I refuse to receive it.