the importance of looking beneath

Chances are, since you are human, something annoys you right now. I don’t know what it is, but it is annoying or frustrating or stressful or some maddening combination of all three.


Sometimes those everyday annoyances are just that – annoying. This is me, in all my big-self glory, being selfish and ridiculous and I just need to get over myself.

I do need to get over myself, but it is also possible that I may need to look into myself – to take a little time to peek beneath that minor annoyance and see where the root of it really comes from.

This can be difficult for me, because I have to be willing to face whatever I see there – when I’m bothered/ annoyed/rejected/frustrated is it really because of this surface thing that is rubbing me wrong?

Or is there something deeper going on, some need I am insisting someone else meet, some expectation I’m placing on the backs of those I love, a burden they were never meant to carry?

I’m sharing an example of this about this over at (in)courage today. Join me?


  1. says

    This is such a true thing.
    It reminds me of a post Shauna Niequist did a little while back about paying attention to your jealousy.
    I have not been able to get it out of my head.

  2. Christy says

    I LOVE the way you write. You always say how I feel so beautifully! I don’t wait for him anymore, I just hand him the camera and say take a photo of me with the kids. They’re horrible at reading minds but they are really good at following directions. He, he he!

  3. says

    Good word, Emily! I often find my annoyances are because I’m not allowing Jesus to meet my need. It always comes back to that.

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