My Husband the Pastor

John graduated from seminary and got a job working in youth ministry right before our wedding. For the next twelve years, he took the trips, led the studies, planned the games, taught the lessons, scheduled the concerts, met with the parents, baptized the believers, prayed with the doubters.


He celebrated the graduates, grieved with the dying, and sat with those they left behind.

A lot of the job was hard. Some of it was life-giving. The best part for John was the people – his fellow pastors, the students, the volunteers.

That’s the part we miss the most.

Eight months after John left his job, I’m sharing at (in)courage an update of where we are now, along with two important lessons no one ever thought to teach us. Join us there?


  1. says

    Emily, this is perfectly timed for the upheaval we’re in as a family. I don’t know not-cliche ways to say “Keep writing this stuff because it’s exactly where my heart is at and can we be friends”. So, just…keep writing. Your obedience in the tension and the wait and the “boredom” is lifting me up.

  2. Erin says

    Hi Emily,
    thanks for sharing this with us. This verse is a blessing to me today as I work on listening and doing “nothing” more too ~ Psalm 143:8 “Let me see your kindness to me in the morning, for I am trusting You. Show me where to walk, for my prayer is sincere.”

    bye-bye ~

  3. says

    Thanks for this, Emily! Being in a pastoral family, who’s recently transitioned, I understand much of what you’ve shared. My word for 2014 was “Still”. And although we have recently both accepted pastoral positions, it looks so very different than it has in the past. For this, I am very grateful. I think the time of rest, stillness and learning to ‘be’ attributed to this change. Continuing to pray for y’all!

    Enjoy the journey, rest in Him, and please, continue to keep it real! It’s so refreshing!


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