are you an open minister or an opinion manager?

For the ten years we’ve been married, my husband has worked as a youth pastor. In youth ministry years, that’s practically a lifetime. And if you don’t already know him in real life, then whether you admit it or not, you already have an idea of what he might be like. I know you do.

It’s true, we fit many of the stereotypes a couple in ministry might have: I went to Bible college, he went to seminary. I am a sign language interpreter turned author.  He reads commentaries for leisure. We have three kids, a dog, and a white picket fence. It’s mildly ridiculous.

But there are other ways in which we are perhaps nothing like what you might think. Yesterday we talked about how, in many ways, we always think we are the complex and complicated ones and they (whoever they are) are the ones who need to adjust, grow, open their minds. We’re defined by God, but other people have their opinions as well. For those of us in ministry (or anyone, really), how much do we allow their opinions to matter to us?

I was asked to write for Ed Stetzer’s Thursday is for Thinkers spot over at his LifeWay research blog, and let’s just go ahead and state the obvious, I’m not nearly smart enough to post over there. Seriously, I scored way low on the Myers Briggs Thinker scale (Feeler all the way) and also, way low on the SAT back in high school. But we don’t need to talk about that. Needless to say, it’s humbling to be there and I would be ever so thrilled to have you join me. (Read, please join me). The post will go live at 11 EST – would love to have you enter into this conversation.


  1. says

    I find that when someone tells me that he or she is open-minded, often it means that the person will allow me to speak uninterrupted before he or she tells me how off-base I am. This benefits no one.

    What I find to be of more importance is whether or not the person with a different opinion than mine is open- hearted. If someone approaches issues with love/kindness/grace, then subsequent discussions become meaningful & productive. And, as a result, his or her thoughts matter much more to me.

  2. says

    I think you are plenty smart! Your writing is always thought-provoking and inspires me to think outside the box. I scored way low on the SAT too, but it doesn’t help that I partied the night before. Yes, I was quite the rebellious one in high school.

  3. says

    My last couple of days have been busy and I’m just now catching up on bloggy stuff. So excited to see your post over there. Ed is a true leader and always has quality guests on his blog. You certainly fit that description.

    So excited that the world is starting to see your words and spread them even further!

  4. says

    I love the concluding line from your post about caring less what people think and caring more for just people. That is what I want too. I want to love with abandon. I want to give generously. I want to be the woman I was created to be. . .and care only what God thinks. I have been sharing your concluding line from your guest post all week. :)

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